The Perils of Daycare

Daycare is its own difficult subject in the mommy world. Leaving my child with a stranger?! Gasp! But yes it is usually necessary and just as scary as it sounds. I constantly am feeling uncertainty and anxiety over losing more and more control of my son and his environments. I learn on a daily basis just how much my opinion matters. Jack. Concerned mothers are usually given the cold shoulder, being treated as if they are over bearing and crazy. At least thats usually how I am treated. At first as a young mother I was treated as I didnt know what my son needed. If you ask me, I may have been young, but I actually parImage of children and teacherented my son and I knew what he needed. I was pretty much a single mother living in my own place and taking care of my sons needs. I was up in the middle of the night, I was buying new formulas and bottles to get rid of his gas pains. I was reading books and articles on online. I took him to doctors appointments when he was sick and was concerned about his health and well being. Someone older may have more experience, yes. That is also no reason to talk down to someone who DOES put in the effort and trials.

I also have found new experiences and feelings as I am older with daycare. There are definetly many negatives in my mind when it comes to home daycare. When you are only able to afford home daycare because you live in one of the richest counties of the state, it doesnt leave you many options. There are positives to home daycare as there are less children and less illnesses. I have found a huge difference in my sons sick episodes since leaving the last center he went to. Which is a huge blessing as he was sick for months with multiple ear infections and constant medicines. I do however think home daycares are way less structured than centers and try to get away with a lot. I know there are dedicated home daycare providers who truly care about their clients and the children. I am not trying to lump them all together but they are also few and far between in my experience.

Children to teacher ratios seem to be violated very easily, here in Michigan the ratio is 6 children to 1 caregiver. This includes caregivers own children under the age of 7. I have experienced at least two home daycare’s that exceed this limit. It also depends on the age of the children. Also a caregiver should give notice to the parents whenever the main caregiver will be out of the facility and an assistant caregiver will be there. I understand this may be irritating or even time consuming but I find it disturbing every time I walk in the door and am subject to an assistant caregiver, even if it is the regular assistant. This is my child people! I need and want to know who is caring for him at all times, I want to know where he is, that he’s made it home with his grandparents while I am at school. I want to know what he ate and how he slept. I AM HIS PARENT. I may not be able to be there at every moment in his life right now, but I still care about him more than my life. Let’s all work together to be more communicative and follow the rules. I don’t want to get all mama bear on someone, but I will if I have to.